I know. Yes, I’ve been missing in action. Some of you worried about me. Well, I’m fine.
My absence is because I got tired of all the noise. Too many distractions.
We are so distracted by so much that we forget how to be in touch with our true nature… our essence.
So, I’ve been working on myself. More importantly, I’ve been contemplating universal suffering.
Why is it that rich people suffer just like poor suffer?
Why is it someone who is loved and adored by millions of fans with incredible wealth suffer and commit suicide?
Why are there so many conflicts and divisions between countries, family members, friends, or co-workers?
You see, we want to help everybody. Something is wrong with them.
We want to change them. We want to make a difference. We are giving advice.
But what about us? What about changing ourselves? What about making a difference in our lives?
How would the WORLD be if we were busy trying to fix ourselves instead of judging or trying to fix others?
So, the answer to my absence is simple: I’ve been working on myself.
But I’ve also been doing a lot of coaching as well. I don’t really like the word coaching.
But, I don’t have another word for it yet. Here’s why I don’t like it…
My coaching clients come to me with their problems and solutions bundled together. They come to me as a student and as a teacher.
Here’s what I have discovered during my coaching sessions:
There’s a LOT of suffering and misery out there. Even the ones who look so together and polished are suffering.
You see, the road to happiness can be very lonely. Unconsciously, most people prefer to suffer.
That is why as soon as we decide to walk that road, we find ourselves walking alone.
But, we are liberated from our psychological miseries. The stresses are gone. You realize that the so-called realities are illusions of the mind.
You try to tell others. But, they think you are going crazy. You don’t make any sense.
Why is that?
Well, the road to happiness leads to the unknown. And most people resist with the unknown.
In the unknown, they have to give up their addiction to drama, conflicts, divisions, and social conditioning.
Most people don’t want to give up their psychological miseries. They prefer the known or the drama.
The known is where they feel safe, secure, and comfortable. A restless or agitated craves for drama.
Waking up in the morning happy with nothing to worry about is a strange phenomenon to a restless brain. Why?
That’s the unknown. What we know for sure is…
Depression, stress, limitations, jealousy, envy, gossip, worries, doubts, conflicts, and fears Without those, life is boring and meaningless to a disturbed brain.
It’s like something is wrong because there would be no devil in our head to battle.
You see, dramas excite us. They make us feel alive. They are like drugs. We need our fix. Without our miseries, there’s no battlefield of the mind.
Needless to say that the road to happiness can turn us into strangers to those around us.
Suddenly, you show up without any drama, or insecurity. You have nothing to complain about.
You have no one to blame. All your problems become opportunities.
Most of my coaching clients come to me with lots of stories, conclusions in their heads.
Deep down inside, they are not willing to let them go. They love their addiction.
I’m in conversation with them about possibilities. But they are in a conversation about limitations.
When I point out that their stories are illusions in their head, they think I’m kind of crazy.
To them, their illusions are very real because they are concrete in their heads.
On the road to happiness, you are listening and dancing to the sound of an unknown drummer.
That means you are dancing alone.
In self-contemplation, you are not listening to the noise out there. There’s no Facebook or WhatsApp.
You are busy. But you are busy observing and witnessing your restless mind.
You don’t have craving for approval or affirmation. You are not thinking about what others think about you.
The thumb ups, the loves, the likes and the Emojis don’t affirm or confirm you. You don’t feel the need to show off on social media.
No need to show off your house, beautiful cars, jewelries, clothes, or material possessions.
Shouting “happy birthday to me” on Facebook or Instagram is meaningless.
Yes, you love your kids or grandkids, but you don’t feel the urge to brag or show off. Just whispering “I love you” in their ears is sufficient.
There’s no need to make others feel jealous because their kids or grandkids are not as good as yours?
The question is, what is really “the known”?
The known is our recurring thoughts. And our recurring thoughts are the source of our suffering and misery.
The known is our past, our present, and our future. They are the same music we listen to, day in and day out.
Now, what is the unknown?
It’s life without drama!
In the unknown, we wake up and see everything with fresh eyes. We are way more observant.
We meet the people we know as if it’s our first time meeting them.
We listen to people to understand them; not to judge them. In the unknown, there are no limitations. EVERYTHING is possible.
We have the power to BEND reality; to shape it; to mold it into whatever we want.
In the unknown, our problems are opportunities. We see things as they are.
We don’t add any drama or misconception which causes suffering.
We don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. People no longer get on our last nerve.
We don’t waste time and energy on the things we cannot control.
Simply put, we are free! Free to make the unimaginable imaginable. The unthinkable, thinkable.
So, let me ask you: Would you like to create magic in your life?
Dance to the beat of an unknown drummer. Walk in the unknown even if you have to walk alone.
I look forward to meeting you on that road!